It’s hard to believe it’s been one month since my husband and I said our vows in the Andes, and made a covenant to stick together through whatever God brings us in this life. Our day was amazingly perfect (don’t worry, I’ll share more! ) and it really is mind-boggling that it’s already been a month. Instead of doing a “what I’ve learned in 1 month of marriage” post like I’ve seen around on other blogs, I’m going to do more of a “what we’ve done/accomplished in 1 month of marriage” post. I realize they’re kinda the same, but just go with the flow!
- learned to live together :: we haven’t mastered this, per se, but it’s getting easier to constantly bump into each other in our small one-room studio-esque apartment. We each have places our stuff belongs, and we like for it to stay there. He doesn’t complain when I make the bed first thing in the morning, and I don’t complain when he leaves food or spices out. We don’t argue over who is washing the dishes, making dinner, or taking the trash out… we split jobs evenly, and it’s working out well so far!
- shared a bed :: although he says I still kick him during the night, I think it’s safe to say we both enjoy having another warm body to curl up to in our little full-sized bed. I don’t think I’m going to ever want to sleep along again!
- getting government paper worked on :: we spent an entire day trying to find the correct office to get our paperwork started at (him to let the government know he’s married, and me to get a resident visa, among other things!)… each office sent us to another one, and it took 4 tries before we finally found the place to start- the Immigration Office! Paperwork is always a stressful process in Peru, so we are both glad we were able to get the process started within our first month of marriage.
- welcomed two baby nephews into the family! :: our beautiful sister-in-law gave birth to twin boys a week after our wedding, and we couldn’t be more excited! Of course, I’m probably more excited than he is, but come on… babies are always exciting!
- worked and made schedules :: for two weeks out of the past month, I was a substitute teacher. I left home at 7:10am, and was back home around 4:00pm each day. JB was wonderful and woke up with me each morning, made me breakfast and helped with lunch, and even walked with me to school! Just having him there was a great support, and it helped us to get on a schedule… up early, work, working out, early bedtime! I know I was exhausted those weeks, and my husband was so supportive.
- celebrated my birthday! :: my birthday was July 8th, and my husband was so sweet to me on my day. Despite the fact that our afternoon didn’t go as planned, the evening was perfect and I was/am so thankful. Once we were rid of the family, we went out for Chinese at the place we went for his birthday, then grabbed a delicious chocolatey-peanut-buttery dessert at Tanta. And he even surprised me with flowers and chocolates!!! Yep, he’s a winner.
- fought :: unfortunately, we had a little (dumb) spat during our first month. We never really fought before, so this was new to us, and we had to learn how we both cope when we are angry/upset.
- haggled prices with taxi drivers :: self-explanatory. And I guess it’s only going to get worse for JB since he’s married to a gringa!
- gotten sick together :: ok, so this one is random I know, but neither of us had really been sick since I’ve moved to Lima, until last weekend… JB woke up with a sore throat and stuffy nose, and two days later I had the same symptoms. Nothing like a good old fashioned cold to help you bond with your spouse! Oh, and we went through lots of tea bags and honey!
- been to a parade :: I legitimately think the Wong Parade was my first ever parade, and I’m glad my husband wanted to go and be tourists and take pictures. Yay for Peru’s Independence Day!
- walked a lot :: there’s no telling how many miles we covered this past month walking around Lima! Every day we walk somewhere… a park, grocery store, bus stop, school… and it feels so good to walk around and talk and learn new backroads in our neighborhoods. Also, we want to be a healthier couple in general, and walking helps us to get exercise daily, even if we’re too tired to run!
- talked :: we’ve talked lots about our pasts, present, and future, and prayed about where God wants us. We’re always learning something new about each other… or at least I’m always learning!
- splurged on ice cream :: there’s nothing better than a soft serve ice cream cone! It’s a little treat for us that we like to splurge on every once in a while
It might not sound like a lot when it’s written down, but the past month of marriage has helped us to accomplish lots of little things that are only the start to the rest of our lives together. I’m so thankful for my husband and our one month of marriage!